You ever notice how this life is always changing? How it doesn’t seem to slow down?
Like a flowing river, life is fluid in movement…smooth in parts and rough in others, but it’s always moving.
As a parent, this sentiment is definitely true. The generations before us have preached that life is short and that kids grow up fast. “Yeah, yeah, yeah,” we say, wondering how the early years of poopy diapers and late nights could possibly go by quickly…until the little monsters start walking and talking. Yet still, we tend to look years ahead, attempting to be present, while wishing for “better” days ahead. Days where our kids are more independent and the daily pressures of care-taking are less and less.
Before you know it, our kids are in school, climbing the ladder of the elementary years. Growing, developing, learning and becoming the beautiful little people that God created them to be. We strive to see them break out of their shells, show leadership and be involved with friends and activities. Those years are filled with great memories, fulfilled hearts and full calendars.
Before you know it, elementary school is a distant memory and the awkward years of middle school arrive. Releasing our little ones into the big, bad world of kind-of-scary-onion-pit-smelling-voice-cracking-puberty-stricken-pre-teens is intimidating and we yearn for our kids to fit in. They don’t seem to need mommy and daddy as much, but they still love us…in their own independent, goofy kind of way. We slowly learn to give them space, but boy does it hurt sometimes to loosen that grip. It’s okay though, that’s part of life and we know that.
Before you know it, middle school is in the rear view mirror and somehow, our kids survived outdoor school, having their own lockers and learning the art of wearing deodorant. High school is now here, along with an insane amount of hormones and attitude. The doors to our “baby’s” rooms always seem to be closed and the canned answer when asked how school’s going is a simple “fine.” Us parents suddenly feel out of the loop, grasping to understand the lingo, the culture and the challenges that our kids are facing daily. We’re left to wonder where the early years went. We begin to lament a bit, asking ourselves if we did enough for them when they were young…hoping that whatever morsels of truth and character imparted to them would provide the tools needed to survive the battle otherwise known as high school.
I could go on and on, but I think you get the point and I’m grateful for the reminder myself. Life is a bullet train, traveling at lightening speed towards the inevitable future and we’re all hanging on the best that we can.
With the school year ending and Father’s Day approaching, I’m left the realization that my boys have grown up fast…like really fast. Will is finishing up 5th grade and Ben conquered his freshman year of high school. WE WILL NO LONGER HAVE A KID IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL…EVER AGAIN! Wow. For some reason, this hits me hard.
It’s weird being a parent sometimes and the emotions that we face regarding our kids. To hold joy in one hand and sorrow in the other is the beautiful mishmash we like to call love. I selfishly want my boys to stay young forever, but I know that’s not a reality, nor should it be. They’re good kids and because of this, my sadness quickly turns to joy. The world needs them and the world needs yours too.
I’ve heard it said that the days are long and the years are short. This couldn’t be more accurate.
So, let’s love them well, through the good days and the bad days…through the joy and the sorrow…through the younger years and the later years…through all of it, while we still have the chance, because before you know it… (insert rapidly approaching future here).
God Bless,
Paul