I’ll admit it, I’ve been feeling a bit sentimental and a tad emotional lately….not a lot emotional, just a tad emotional…we’ll just call it macho-emotional ;).
Ben, my oldest son, is finishing up his last year of elementary school and entering the big, bad world of middle school.
For some reason, I’m kinda struggling with this next chapter. His feet are now the size of cars, he’s growing like a weed and now has to wear deodorant to fend off the flies. Things are changing and my little boy is becoming a young man.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m so grateful that he’s a smart, independent and kind kiddo. He opens doors for ladies, says his “please’s” and “thank you’s” and is on his way to success, I’m sure of it.
BUT, I still want to keep a tight grasp on that not-so-little guy…I selfishly want to sprinkle him with magical dust that keeps him young forever…
Ok fine, since the whole fairy dust thing “isn’t possible,” I guess I’ll just settle for slowing down and trying to appreciate every moment with him.
To take my own advice, the other night, I asked Ben if he wanted to go have some dude time. He seemed pretty cool with this plan.
Dude time isn’t ever fancy, it’s just us being dad and son, hanging out together, talking about whatever. In this instance, we hung out in the “Bro Lounge” (an extra hang out room in our house), turned some music on and plopped down on the couch. We talked about girls, friends, school and made up silly, gross names for no apparent reason…you know, dude stuff.
Time slowed down and it felt good to connect with him…to be alive with him…to laugh with him…to love him with my presence…my UNRUSHED presence.
Time is a weird thing in that it flies by so fast, yet seems to drag on at the same time. Know what I mean?!
It’s so tempting to wish away the now and keep our eyes planted on the future….especially when it comes to our children.
Before long, years have passed and we’re longing for the “old days” when things were much “simpler.” It’s all relative I suppose.
Let’s not let distraction and busyness cloud the beauty of right now.
It would be so cool if you joined me in becoming a sponge….by “sponge” I mean absorbing every emotion, feeling, memory, hug and conversation involving where our kids are RIGHT NOW in life.
After all, they need us and we need them. Let’s slow down and love ’em a lot.