Sometimes, he’ll offer a little more confidential, heartfelt info. during these times, which is awesome.
Amidst our conversation about random things, I asked him if he was excited to go to school the next day. I already knew the answer to this question, but I wanted to hear the full run down. His answer was definitely a “no” regarding looking forward to school. He proceeded to make a list regarding why he was going to have a bad day. It went something like this:
- I have to wake up and go to school
- I have to take a reading test
- I have to go to the dentist to get my braces fixed
There may have been a couple more things, but you get the point. Tomorrow was going to be a BAD DAY!!!!!
I found this to be a great opportunity to explain something to him about life, perspective and choices. Before tomorrow had even begun, Ben had decided that the next day would be crappy. I mean, his challenges were kind of legit. Who wants to take tests and go to the dentist anyway????!!!! I totally get it!
BUT, I encouraged him to make tomorrow a good day DESPITE the obstacles in his way. That life isn’t all about what happens to us, but how we REACT to the ups and downs….something like that. I think he listened, because he stopped repeating the list of drudgery that tomorrow held.
We all fall into the trap of setting the tone for tomorrow before tomorrow even starts, don’t we?! It’s pretty easy to do and it takes mind muscles to force those prophetic thoughts out of the way.
The truth is, we often think we have tomorrow figured out, but in reality, we’re just lucky to wake up breathing.
Jesus tells us not to worry about tomorrow and he also reminds us that we have no idea what tomorrow will bring…..heck, we don’t even know what the next few minutes will bring! He’s pretty smart and I think I’ll follow His lead on this one.
It’s wise to be mindful regarding the possibilities and challenges of the days ahead, it’s true. The gritty part comes when we have to make the choice of embracing those challenges vs. dreading them. We so quickly forget that we can have peace, even in the midst of the most mundane, difficult moments. Plus, our fears of tomorrow rarely hold water….in other words, situations often turn out better than what we predicted.
As a quick follow-up, the next day, I asked Ben how his day went. Specifically, I asked Ben if he “made it a great day.” His answer was pretty funny and he didn’t skip a beat….he said: “Oh, I forgot.” So, trying not to smile and patting his head, I asked him if the day wasn’t quite as bad as he was expecting it to be. He did say that it was better than he expected, so we’ll go with that. Hey, it’s a start at least!
So, go get it friends. Go grab tomorrow by the…..well, you know what I mean.