Being a Dad

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I never thought that I would be a dad of two beautiful boys.  I always thought that I would father girls.  If I’m going to be honest, when we found out that our first son was on the way, I was terrified.  It wasn’t the actual having a baby part that made me anxious, it was the great responsibility of having to steer a boy in the direction of becoming a man.

What in the world did I have to offer a little dude?  At the time, I didn’t really know how to do much “manly” stuff.  I wasn’t sure how to be a leader or a godly example.  I ended up facing my own insecurities head on in an effort to better myself as a dad.  Through this, I found out that I had one thing to offer for sure; love.  You can’t go wrong with that!  It covers up imperfection, it allows failure and it provides freedom.

As I attempt to understand my relationship with God as my Father, I use my own experiences as a dad to help me along.  When my boys don’t listen, I love them anyways.  When they push the limits, I love them anyways.  When they’re stubborn, I love them anyways.  When they fight, I love them anyways.  My dad used to tell me, “whether you’re good or bad, happy or sad, I will always love you.”  That’s our relationship with God in it’s most beautiful, simple form!  Only He’s God, so it’s even deeper than that!  Beautiful.

There are so many things that I want to teach my boys.  My desire is for them to be men of integrity.  That they would follow Jesus.  That they would be gentlemen.  That they would be salt and light everywhere that they go.  That they would help the less fortunate.  That they would bless others with the blessings given to them.  That they would experience heart-break and learn how to piece it back together.  That they would fail a bunch and learn from their failures.  That they would be humbled.  That they would learn to say “I don’t know”.  That they would learn to lead, but also how to follow.  That they would view others through God’s eyes.  Loving others like God loves them.

I’m saddened to hear all of the statistics regarding homes without fathers.  There is hope though.  There is a Heavenly Father who loves each of us, despite what our current situations may be.  That’s pretty cool.

I look forward to the years ahead, God willing.  I’m excited to teach more cool stuff.  Better yet, I’m excited to learn new things from my boys.  I’ve found that sometimes our kids can be the best teachers.  Funny how that works.

God Bless,



5 thoughts on “Being a Dad

  1. Sounds like you are doing and going to do a great job. First and foremost because you are CONSCIOUSLY parenting. So many people, I think, are just in reaction mode all the time. I mean you have to, right? But you are also acting with an eye toward the future, and how you want to demonstrate to those boys what being a good man is all about. You are putting thought, effort, insight and time into being a good dad. Your little boys are going to grow up to be good men, and they are going to make a couple women very happy. 😉 Because with all you mention above, they can’t help but learn how to treat women (and a special girl of their choice) right.
    Bravo, Paul. I wish more parents were as conscious as you.


    • Hey, thanks Kristi! I appreciate the kind words and encouragement. Not that I am some amazing dad or anything…I just think that leaving a legacy should be more of a focus to parents, or in my case, dads. It’s not just about the day to day stuff, it’s what you leave behind. Thanks again Kristi, I always enjoy reading your insight. Blessings.


  2. “That they would experience heartbreak and learn how to piece it back together.” Your love or your boys is evident and the prayers you are praying are so encouraging as they move beyond the walls of safe!


    • Thank you for the comment and encouragement Debbie! In regards to being safe, that’s the story of my life. I’m slowly learning to step outside of “safe” and to make sure that my boys will be comfortable doing the same (a good, responsible safe that is :)). Sometimes, that’s where the most character is tested and formed. Thanks again!


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